Jealousy A Negative Emotion


No matter what  our age is , or how sensible and  sane we are, we seldom find ourself jealous of someone.Even the successful people are not the exception to it. As jealousy is an emotion it is natural for human  being to experience it. So don't be ashamed of being jealous and accept that you are jealous because the moment you accept it, you are ware of it .But if we don't pay attention to it, eventually it will harm ourselves( Eg:- will make us sad, angry, fearful etc) therefore we must get rid of it.


So let's dive into the concept of jealousy:-

We are never jealous of person particularly but of the thing which may be material (like money, house , boyfriend/girlfriend etc) or immaterial ( skill, knowledge , problem solving ability etc) that person has.

Jealousy is a feeling that arises due to the thing we think we dont have what that person has. Therefore here lies a gap  i.e.between what you think you don't have  but  that person has . This is where you have to be more aware and know whether that gap is actually there (real ) or it is just mindmade(unreal) and even if it is actually there whether you really need to fill it or not.Because gap is not always need to be filled sometimes you just have to maintain that gap to reflect your uniqueness.

How to get rid of jealousy:-

Ask yourself question 1) why are you jealous of that person. What is that gap between me and person I am jealous of.Now ask another question 2) whether that gap is real or mindmade. If it is real ask yourself another question 3) do I need to fill it or to keep it as it is.anwer to third question depends on what that gap bring to you, if filling it brings meaning to your life then fill it by learning the thing that person has it may be skill, knowledge , art , physique etc the moment you accept the gap and try to fill it by learning it you will feel gratitude towards a person you were jealous of earlier , see you are no more jealous instead greatful .But if filling that gap doesn't bring meaning to your life don't fill it , leave it as  it is to maintain your uniqueness ,then you will realise you were unnecessarily comparing yourself to other which is a greatest waste of time in your precious life. "Look  you are no more jealous now "

(Note:- here the gap is not deficit,  therefore it is neither positive  nor negative.)

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